10JULY7633she will see you as hers. That's what Christ wants from His Church: s

10JULY7624 her. I trained her. I delighted in her formation. She has my mind. Sh

10JULY7616woman who brings me more joy than I ever thought possible. And every n

10JULY7613arded me for it. He tore me away from my affair. He broke me so I cou

10JULY7606ell of pleasure, and I am her unshakable source of security. That's w

10JULY7600you can teach your wife to be gold to you. I wanted my wife to be gol

10JULY7599r endure as gold. Let it be gold. Be valuable to Jesus. Because then

10JULY7595what he has done." (Revelation 22:12) * "Each one's work will become

10JULY7594am coming soon, bringing my recompense with me, to repay each one for

10JULY7592hat he has done—to the evil, evil; to the good, good. * "He will r

10JULY7590ly drawn, irrespective of labor or outcome. That would be chaos. That

10JULY7589 on judgment day, rewards were handed out like raffle tickets—random

10JULY7587bear fruit. If you do not grow, He cannot harvest. And what cannot be

10JULY7582 in full. That is true happiness for him, and for her. Jesus is comin

10JULY7580rvest. It is righteous to harvest. When a man labors in the vineyard o

10JULY7577ell for my fount of desire. The reward of my labor. And as her husban

10JULY7572y. So convince her of the reward. What does a man of virtue desire mo

10JULY7571ulas. She only needs one thing: to ask her husband what makes him happ

10JULY7570 "Am I good enough?" She doesn't need a stack of books or endless form

10JULY7568es to become everything he desires, then she becomes his perfect wife.

10JULY7567 his integrity. From there, it all spirals downward. But if she choos

10JULY7562is perfect wife. So he must show her. Teach her. Lead her. If a wife

10JULY7561 be what her husband desires. That is the only way she can be called h

10JULY7560oman's standard cannot be some abstract idea of "a good wife." It must

10JULY7559nd. This is why men must lead. Because women were made to follow. A w

10JULY7554ur own virtue. Men and women don't "think differently"—that's a lie.

10JULY7553 teammate who doesn't conflict or resist but reflects and amplifies yo

10JULY7550uilt in the image of her husband, reflecting how the Church is made in

10JULY7541ing I wanted. She is the best wife in human history. The best wife is

10JULY7540investment. And I didn't give up. And by not giving up, I got everyth

10JULY7529he could finally be free from her guilt and shame. I wanted the Jolen

10JULY7525ions that Jolene held. With it, she was able to start to connect her e

10JULY7516 when the amygdala was temporarily suppressed, all the thoughts she ha

10JULY7506, the brain overproduces synaptic connections, which are later selecti

10JULY7499t what went wrong and change her. So I started reading books with Jole

10JULY7497ave a wife. But I couldn't stand that misery for more than a few days

10JULY7495ust roommates. It felt more bearable to accept that reality in separat

10JULY7494ment. At that point, Jolene and I weren't husband and wife—we were j

10JULY7492is why I can say God always answers my prayers! God always answers my

10JULY7487oolish choices, so I begged Him not to leave this decision up to me. I

10JULY7479 her brokenness or our lack of intimacy—but my desires. They told me

10JULY7472hrough our marriage. Eventually, we found ourselves in a nearly sexles

10JULY7471ment, but over the next decade, the slow poison of compromise spread t

10JULY7470bdicated my role as a leader. Neither of us knew the weight of that mo

10JULY7459now is that I failed in my leadership when we were newlyweds. Our firs

10JULY7457 to him I had committed adultery, and it was integral to this story, b

10JULY7454ng rescue. And you couldn't bear to hear it. The elders accused me of

10JULY7453bout our motives and barred the door. I wasn't conceited. I was offeri

10JULY7451brokenness. To burn the lies and raise beauty from the ashes. But you

10JULY7449d Kristen, Dave and Greer, we wanted this for you. We wanted to teach